In the modern world, if we observe the characteristics that men and women are looking the most for in a future mate, maturity and confidence certainly come in at the top on the list. There are qualities like those two that the more you have, simply the better. Better even, they impact all other areas of your life. In other words, confidence and maturity are hands down the best investments you can make for your dating life. Invest in the greatest qualities you can have and you will improve your chances of success greatly. Confidence and maturity are hard to define though, so they need to be studied and understood in-depth.

Let’s admit something tough, the subject of confidence is a bit overused in dating articles and maturity has been quite left in the dark for people to really get a grasp of. Let’s go in depth about maturity here then. The formula looks simple: you become more mature, you become more attractive.

The first time we heard about maturity in our lives was probably around our teenage years, when we pretended to know what it was. Of course, anyone could admit they had no real idea what maturity meant at that time. One thing is quite sad though: a lot of men and women spend their whole life acting like children even if they claim to know what maturity is.  

Before we take a look at maturity, let’s take a look at what it’s NOT. It is important because you need to get the wrong thinking patterns out of your mind and insert the good ones, the true ones. Here are the facts: maturity is not experience. Maturity is not knowledge or education. Maturity is not learning from mistakes. Maturity is not about losing our childhood’s wildest dreams. Maturity is not acting like we’re older either (hell no!). I’ve often seen people in their twenties be more mature than people close to retirement. People pretend to know maturity using the thinking patterns listed above because they are hiding themselves from the truth. Being tagged as immature is probably something everyone hates to death so everyone has their own twisted view of it to fit their needs. What is it about then?

Maturity is about taking responsibilities and being independent. Sounds refreshing? Yes it is. That definition is the truth about maturity. When you’re mature, you take your responsibilities, your own responsibilities, not the ones that were given to you by others and that you don’t want of. It is about being self-sufficient, not being dependent on other people. That is sexy for both guys and girls. Nothing is more annoying than lovers who are relying on the people around them to dictate their feelings, dreams and freedom. If we compare this real definition of maturity to the teenagers we talked about earlier it is quite hard to believe people that are 16 can really be that mature. They are dependent on their parents for a tons of things. We can’t blame them because it is indeed their time to learn about how to be independent. Maturity is also about not needing the approval of everyone to love yourself. Remember this definition and paragraph, apply it, and you will become more attractive. Independence, also known as maturity, makes love so genuine, you will be attracting the best lovers your area has to offer.

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Does becoming attractive mean becoming someone else? Yes, but only in a way. Modifying behaviors is part of becoming the “new you” and you must accept that. However, if you’re asking yourself how you can become attractive using elements and attributes you already possess, read on the following advice. They are only meant to make the most potential out of what you already have.

Bring together your qualities from your different social circles

Most of us can’t deny it, we all act a bit different depending on who we’re hanging out with. Sometimes we can be funnier while being with our friends than with our date because we’re scared of being judged. However, it is wrong to put aside such a great quality as being funny depending on who’s around you. You do not need to hide any part of your personality to anyone. You just need to adapt it. For example, the funny and comedian side of you might always come up with twisted and funny visions of situations, just deliver them in a more subtle manner if you are with your date. Use words that won’t make him/her jump on his/her chair. Your friends are probably able to handle a bit more raw and crass humor than your date. Just remember that and you will be fine.

Be honest and live in a judgement-free environment

Being judgmental towards others and being affected by people’s judgement will make you act different from normal, this is no secret. If you modify who you are because of your ego and the opinion of the rest of the world, people will have trouble appreciating you. Someone trying to please others and that is judgmental every once in a while can be cute, but people will not want to stay around for a long time around such a person. Try to be honest about who you are and what you really think deep down, and once you express yourself, don’t second think or justify yourself according to people’s reactions. If you really do shock someone without meaning to, sincerely apologize to that person, but don’t adjust to them if you said what you truly believe. If they have trouble digesting what you just said, let them do so. After all, if they don’t like who you are, it’s up to them to decide whether they want to be part of your life or not.

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