One of the single best excuses for not trying to find the man or woman of our dreams is being busy. From a realistic perspective, it is actually one of the worst ones. If anything, dating experts will all tell you that being busy and living an interesting life is the first step in being successful with dating. Here is exactly how you should play the game when you’re a busy person.
Be straightforward
An extremely busy person doesn’t necessarily have to pretend he’s someone else. Don’t apologize for being busy. It is a great quality actually. You’re heavily involved in various aspects of life and that’s good. When dating and trying to “game” the opposite sex, some unfulfilled people actually try to fake being busy to look more interesting, while all you will ever have to do is, well, act normally. That’s an advantage many others would like to have.
It is important that you be congruent with your general lack of time. Those who fake it aren’t congruent because while they’re talking about how busy they are and the incredible life they’re living to a complete stranger, that stranger is asking himself/herself something along the lines of “Why is he/she taking so much time telling me he/she’s so busy and great, I’m a complete stranger! He/she should normally have a lot of people in his life to tell those accomplishments to if he’s that incredible and busy!” Pretending you’re very busy while accepting any first offer of time and location for a date is also pretty laughable.
A more congruent and genuine approach would be sincerely saying that you noticed that person, why you did, that you’re in a hurry for work, but that you are dying to meet him/her. Then, quickly exchange numbers and meet again “for real” at a more convenient time and location. Also consider doing this if the person you’re interested in looks busy or in a hurry himself. When you’re really busy and not faking it, admitting it is very genuine, sincere and attractive.
Do not take too much time off your normal life to get your dating game together
Taking too much time off is a common mistake a lot of people will make when trying to get their dating game back on track. They will take for granted that they have to sacrifice some other aspect of their life in order to be attractive and available to date. Dating certainly isn’t about time, remember that. You can catch someone’s attention in a matter of minutes and schedule a first 15 minute date at a coffee shop. It is not that hard. If you’re struggling with time, it’s mostly your fault. Also, if you want to add some self-help development to the mix and get new tools to leverage your success, it can be a great idea. And it’s not an even necessary to take a week off and go to these seminars. If that would screw up your professional life and schedule for a month, don’t do it. Instead, pick up a DVD from past seminars that are sold online or read free advice for about 30 minutes a day while eating or before going to sleep.
In all cases, it is unnecessary to make big temporary changes to your life just because of dating because what’s the point in getting the world’s best guy or girl with your new “dating lifestyle” if you will eventually have to go back to the normal routine to save your career and future?
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